What TRULY matters...Grit??

😧3.6 that's it??

I could hardly believe I only scored a 3.6 on the grit test in Angela Duckworth's Grit.

In my mind a 3.6 out of 5 is a failing grade.  I responded to all the statements without overthinking and applying them to my daily life and I only scored a 3.6!

In my search for what TRULY matters, I have chosen to eliminate many things in my life: soap making, organizing, group leading.  This has filled my mentality with the idea that I am giving up.  But at what gain? (See what I did there?)  I am giving up static in my life to be more focused on the things that need me now: family, career, personal wellbeing. Does that mean I am not gritty?  Does that mean that I took the test in the wrong capacity?  Should there be a Grit test for moms? HMMMMM...

Of course some of you are thinking who cares about the grit test?  But someone once looked at me and said "I just love your passion for everything."   And this is something I cherished since college.

Commence the overthinking!

Mom Rant
I have the perseverance to deal with my children in a patient and kind manner to teach them right from wrong and how to manage their time and be kind, nurturing people.  Not mention the times I fly off the handle when they don't do what I ask or make a crazy decision or fail a test out of sheet neglect.  Are these not the true  definitions of passion and perseverance?

Wife Rant
In a world littered with broken homes and divorces my husband and I work meticulously at building a solid foundation for our marriage and family life.  We have implemented many different theories and beliefs and ethics into our family that have taken time and perseverance and passion.  We have created a system of fighting and loving and passion and lifestyle that is the epitome of what defines grit.  Is this worthy of a 3.6?

Woman Rant
Full time job, cooking, cleaning, volunteering, wife, mother, teacher, coach - the list is endless.  This is the first time ever that women are required to wear so many hats and my grit scale is a shabby 3.6??? This simply can't be.

If grit truly is the combination of passion and perseverance in tasks as a mother, wife and woman, how could I only score a 3.6.

Teacher Rant 
So if this is truly my score and I truly have a growth mindset, did I fail and have to learn from this in order to conquer my grittiness? Is my search for what TRULY matters going to make my score soar to the 5 that I deserve?  Is the number 3.6, the driving force that will make my search for what TRULY matters a lasting testimony to my grittiness?

Cheers to Mom Grit - The driving force for my journey!

Talk Soon,
~Micha

What TRULY Matters!

It's been a while and boy have I been busy.  Buzz buzz buzz! Taking on this and that and more and more.

In a matter of two years, I started a flourishing soap business, organized a farmer's market and started a community group for girls to deal with bullying -  add that to the things I already did - coach lacrosse, teach ccd, keep bees and chickens and more and more and more.  Not only do I have a problem saying no, but I have a serious problem of starting things.  I was involved in so many different things I started to realize I wasn't enjoying any of them.  Putting energy into so many different things lends itself to being overworked and underpaid.

So I did myself a favor.  I went to the last moment I was truly happy.  I just turned thirty; I was running every morning, taking my children to the park daily, practicing Yoga regularly and being present in my marriage.  So I simplified my list and it looked something like this:

1. Yoga
2. Running
3. Spending time with my family.

(Not necessarily in that order.)

What does your list look like and how will you find your journey to define what TRULY matters?

I hope you'll join me on my journey back to me!

Talk Soon!
~Micha